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To be objective, I persuaded four of my friends to use the services of both Dating Sites and Marriage Agencies, especially since it was not difficult to do this, all five of us at that time were without permanent life partners, all of different ages (the youngest of us is 22 years, the eldest - 61), three - with children, moreover, the age of children from 7 months to 38 years, two - without children and, most importantly, all in anticipation of great personal happiness!
This is the data of my girlfriends, changing their names
1) Lydia - 61 years old, primary school teacher, two children aged 38 and 30, widow.
2) Natalia - 40 years old, head of a construction company, 1 child - 20 years old, divorced.
3) Irina - 37 years old, university teacher, no children, not married.
4) Elena - 28 years old, seller, two children - 7 months and 5 years old, divorced.
5) Oksana - 22 years old, student, no children, not married.
We all talked and decided during the year to try to find life partners using the services of Marriage Agencies and Dating Sites. Moreover, we all live in different cities, but in this case it was more of a plus than a minus, we decided to register on completely different sites and contact different agencies.
With varying success, we “cooked” in this process for almost a year, called up, met, drank coffee together, cried and laughed, shared our joys and disappointments, I can only tell you one thing for sure - it was very interesting, informative and one might even say effective. And, most importantly, the three of us successfully built relationships.
Well, in addition to all the above "carrots", I also managed to conduct my own mini-study, that is, now I will share my observations and conclusions with you.
To be honest, at the beginning of the journey, all five of us were definitely more serious about Marriage Agencies, somehow they inspired us more confidence, their pages were full of photographs of women, the texts promised an individual approach and the selection of a partner according to psychological characteristics, phone numbers urged us to call them, and photos of happy couples promised quick and unearthly happiness, which, we were sure, would definitely find us, so different and so similar in our desire to meet our soul mate.
And we did it!
Each of us found a Marriage Agency in our city, phoned and met with their representative at the appointed time. All five of us were met by hospitable girls, smiling, pleasant in communication, offered to fill out questionnaires, moreover, in 4 of them, for some reason, the questionnaires were in printed form (in our then age of Internet technologies), photos could be brought both printed and in electronic form, moreover, they asked for several, at least three, but more is better - so that there is plenty to choose from. If there is no photo, they carefully recommended "full-time" photographers who, for "small" money, were ready to take the necessary pictures for us.
The questionnaire included standard questions, height, weight, age. It was striking that there were much more questions about a woman than questions about the desired chosen one.
From my personal experience:
the agency office was located on one of the central streets of the capital, the room was small, I was met by a young girl who answered most of my questions like
How is the whole process going?
“How many couples have you successfully introduced?”
Are there any guarantees?
“How exactly do you check the men you will then propose as suitors?”
in response to all these questions, she muttered something indistinct or like
"Well, what guarantees?"
"We can't guarantee you anything"
"There are a lot of profiles of women"
“Existing couples - of course, there are many ...”
To be honest, my optimism has noticeably diminished already there, in the office of this "elite" Marriage Agency.
Myself process I found out for myself that it is simple, and I was able to answer many questions for myself already in the process of “cooperation”.
1. Women come to the office, fill out questionnaires, give photos, sign a primitive agreement that their data can be used on the World Wide Web, plus you must provide your passport so that the Marriage Agency is sure that you do not have a stamp there about marriage.
2. Apparently, the same manager enters these data and photos on the website of the Marriage Agency. A few days later, a woman can even “find herself” there, check whether everything was entered correctly.
3. From now on, communication between the woman and the Agency takes place by e-mail, i.e. if you want to change something - write them a letter and, I advise, the next business day, if you do not receive a response to this letter, it is better to call and talk to the manager.
What is happening on the other side, I found out later, talking with one of my potential suitors.
Men can register on the English version of the site of the Marriage Agency, view the profiles of brides and, if they like someone, they can write to this girl, but ...
This is where things get interesting.
From this stage, a man who has at least some active intentions must pay the agency. In the Agency where I was registered, it cost a man 50 US dollars for the opportunity to communicate with 5 girls.
What was meant by communication?
A man could write letters for these girls and get answers to them, everything is super, but “BUT” popped up again
He can do all this only through the Marriage Agency, i.e. he writes letters for “Oksana d546”, to the Agency's e-mail, and the Agency, in turn, copies this letter and sends it to the woman along with a brief questionnaire and several photographs of the groom.
The woman answers the groom, moreover, she can write both in a foreign language and in her native Russian. If a transfer is necessary, the potential fiancé will, of course, pay for it additionally to the Marriage Agency.
Also, for $50, the agency offered a man 1 hour of Skype conversation with a selected woman, i.e. the man chose the girl, informed the Agency about it, the manager called her, sent (or “did not have time” to send, as was the case in my case) the groom’s data and photo, invited her to come to the office to communicate with the man on Skype and you talk to him in the presence of a representative of the Agency. Before this video meeting, I was instructed for half an hour what can and cannot be said to the groom. Of course, you can’t say your personal data, such as address, phone, skype, email, it is advisable to smile and “beautifully” keep up the conversation.
Plus, the Agency usually offers a man to send bouquets of flowers, soft toys, sweets to the bride (brides) he likes ... for a fee, of course.
Sometimes men, after some time of correspondence, even decide to come and get acquainted personally with the bride (more often with brides). Pay for such a tour organized by the Marriage Agency separately. I won't even write the amount. It is very decent, but quite reasonable, I think.
The agency takes care of meeting the groom, transferring him from the airport and back, renting an apartment and organizing + holding meetings with the brides. Under the conduct means the acquaintance of the bride and groom in the office of the marriage agency, and, if necessary, the services of an interpreter at an additional hourly payment from the groom.
Everything looks just perfect for a woman. When working with the Marriage Agency, she risks nothing and, most importantly, she pays nothing.
So the advantages of finding a husband through a Marriage Agency:
- for a woman it is completely free
- if you do not speak any of the foreign languages, you will be kindly provided with the services of translating letters and an interpreter at a personal meeting with the groom
- you have no risks when meeting with a stranger, an interpreter may be present at the meeting (a nice person who sometimes entertains you better than the groom), you will have a great time in a restaurant, on a ship or just walking in the park
- you will not have the "hassle" associated with renting a hotel or apartment for a man, with his transfer from / to the airport, with how to entertain him and what to show him.
- there will not even be a problem how to get rid of it if you do not like it. In this case, you can simply call the representative of the Agency after the meeting and say “I don’t like it, I don’t want it anymore”. Further, it is no longer your concern how they will explain it to him, console him, etc., if you did not give him your contact details, of course.
It is very important that in this case you avoid the most unpleasant moment, believe me, this is one of the most difficult tasks - to tell the groom who has flown thousands of kilometers away "you are not my hero."
And don’t bother yourself with this, the Marriage Agency will “comfort” him very quickly by offering to choose a new bride on their website and immediately organize a new meeting with a new bride. By the way, I think one day I became such a comforting bride, of course, not knowing about it at that time.
From my personal experience:
Just in the middle of the working day, they called me from the Marriage Agency, politely asking “Am I still married?”, Since we have not been in contact for the last few months, the second question was “Am I in the city now, am I on a business trip, etc. .?” and, having received the answers “yes” and “no”, respectively, they offered to go on a date with the arrived groom in the evening.
Out of surprise, I had to sharply apply the brakes of the car and urgently look for parking to take a breath and somehow “digest the situation”. By the time I found a free seat on the sidewalk, the girl “at the other end of the line” had already told me the time, the meeting place, and asking me not to be late, hung up.
So, exactly at seven o'clock in the evening, I was already opening the door of a small but cozy cafe in the city center in anticipation of "the meeting of my life."
In the afternoon, in a telephone conversation with a representative of the Marriage Agency, I found out that my potential fiancé is 43 years old, he is an architect, an Englishman (as it turned out later, not quite an Englishman).
In the cafe hall, a girl approached me, probably the one who called me in the afternoon and took me to one of the tables, where my fiancé was sitting a little hunched over. He looked about 50 years old, grayish complexion spoke of fatigue, one would have thought that he had just come from the airport and suffered at least a 12-hour flight.
The girl introduced us to each other and prepared to translate simultaneously. After a few phrases, I politely specified that I could communicate perfectly in English and did not need an interpreter, which noticeably embarrassed her. But after 5 minutes I was left at the table alone with the groom.
We drank coffee and just talked like a human being. I found out that he really works as an architect and lives in a small town near London, a Jew, married three times, three adult children, looking for a young wife from Eastern Europe. When asked why it was from Eastern Europe, he told something about devotion and subtleties to the Slavic soul. And I looked at him and he did not evoke any emotions in my soul except pity.
He was in our country for the third day, and in general he bought a tour for 5 days at the Marriage Agency, that he corresponded through the agency with a woman, but at a personal meeting it turned out that he did not speak a word of English and even studied German at school. That in the office of the same Marriage Agency, he “staggered around the site” and chose several more women for meetings, among which I was lucky to get.
So, having chatted with him for several hours, helping him pass the cold autumn evening, I learned the story of another already middle-aged and rather "shabby life" lonely man who, like millions of other people around the world, tried to find the reflection of his soul in the eyes of another human...
It is worth noting that I did not receive any more calls from this Marriage Agency and our next communication, about half a year after meeting with the “English” groom, was initiated by me in order to remove my profile from their website. I would like to note that they deleted my profile for more than 20 days.
Analyzing our successes, my friends and I came to the following conclusions about dating through marriage agencies:
- Conclusion one - in addition to all the above pluses that I described above, through Marriage Agencies, women and girls are more likely to arrange their personal lives, who, when filling out the questionnaire, indicate a minimum knowledge of a foreign language and always note that they need the help of an interpreter when writing letters and at meetings.
This conclusion was obtained purely experimentally, after two of us, namely those who did not speak a foreign language, began to correspond with the suitors, and then also went to several meetings. I, having plucked up the audacity, and in order to get confirmation or refutation of my theory about languages, filled out a questionnaire in another Marriage Agency, exactly on the next street from my first Agency. But already in the question about the level of proficiency in a foreign language, she wrote the following: “I have minimal knowledge, but I am ready to learn if necessary,” and a checkmark next to the phrase “I need the help of an interpreter.” So, in three months I met with three applicants for a hand and a heart. Maybe in the second agency I was just more lucky ...
By the way, when filling out questionnaires at Marriage Agencies, the manager usually clarifies whether a woman is already cooperating with any other agencies, and when filling out my second questionnaire at Agency No. 2, I kept silent on this question, let his employees forgive me.
- second conclusion
- photos should be beautiful, but not studio, better at home, or in the park, so that with makeup, but not conspicuous.
- third conclusion
- again, only from our experience - through Marriage Agencies more likely to meet a man aged 45 and older. Of course, I am familiar with the statistics at what age in developed countries men think about starting a family. But 45-50 years old are usually already men “with their own history”, and this is far from their first attempt in this field.
- conclusion four
- most Marriage Agencies work exclusively with foreign grooms, it just so happened that for those who would not mind considering the grooms living “on the next street”, most of the Marriage Agencies found by us are not suitable.
And, at the end of the conversation about Marriage Agencies, all five of us noted one very big minus in working with them,
PRACTICALLY NOTHING DEPENDS ON A WOMAN IN COOPERATION WITH A MARRIAGE AGENCY, this is such a passive search for your happiness - through the Marriage Agency, first of all, they CHOOSE YOU.
Your task is to truthfully fill out the questionnaire, provide the Agency with photos and continue to wait and pray, first that the groom likes you and chooses you, and then that you like him.
Although for some this may be a plus.
In my next part, I will share the experience of finding happiness through dating sites, but this is a topic for a separate story.
If you are interested, write it in your comments, I am ready to answer your questions and good luck to you!
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Getting to know a decent person who, like you, wants to settle down and start a family is not so easy. If dating friends of friends did not bring results, going to the club tired, and dating on the Internet disappointed, you can decide to take a cardinal step and put your fate in the hands of professionals. the site found out how marriage agencies in Moscow work, who applies to them, why it is not customary to talk about it, how much the services of matchmakers cost and how not to become a victim of a scammer
In fact, all marriage agencies are divided into three types:
- traditional "for everyone" agencies with a huge client base, psychological tests and photo albums, where you will be arranged dates with several suitable candidates;
- agencies "not for everyone", creating the illusion of a chance meeting with a potential life partner;
- agencies that organize dating parties with elements of games or speed dating
Who uses the services of marriage agencies
The bulk of agency clients are women over 30 years old who were busy with their careers while others were flirting, dating, getting married and having children, and men also over 30 years old. For the most part, they are divided into two types: workaholics and businessmen who have no time to look for life partners; or people who are tired of the complexity, commercialism and psychological instability of the weaker sex (as they say, having burned yourself in milk, you ask a professional to find decent clean water).
The ratio of men to women in most agencies is 40 to 60 percent. Experts say that it is easier for women to join such organizations. “For a man to turn to the agency and admit that he himself did not manage to find someone is a whole feat,” said Olga Korneeva, a consultant psychologist at the Vizavi agency.
At the same time, women are looking for accomplished, personally mature, socially successful men. But men like calm, gentle, understanding companions.
Usually women of "male" professions come to the marriage agency. They often occupy leadership positions: chief accountants, financiers, lawyers, lawyers. If at work they feel in their place, then in a relationship they don’t. Because men don't like to be controlled. They appreciate emotions, kindness, warmth. Most often, women in the questionnaires write "Kind, understanding, beautiful, well-groomed."
Olga Korneeva
psychologist-consultant of the marriage agency "Vizavi"
In a word, clients often first have to be prepared for dates, explaining what relationships are, how to behave, how to get rid of old wounds and believe in happiness, and only then can they be released into the light. Therefore, decent agencies usually employ psychologists or psychotherapists.
Most firms will offer you two types of services:
- access to the database of candidates, where you can view client profiles and ask for their phone numbers (from 2 thousand rubles in a small modest agency to 55 thousand rubles in a firm for VIP clients);
- individual search for a partner with expert advice, preparation and holding of meetings (from 7 thousand rubles for one trial meeting to 77 thousand rubles for a package of services with the search for candidates, the services of a stylist and a psychologist, and so on).
With the search for people in the database, everything is clear, it goes about the same in all types of companies: a contract is concluded with a client (urgent or without an expiration date), he is given access to the database, his profile is posted. You can search for a suitable party, request a phone number, contact and make an appointment. Individual offline meetings are organized differently everywhere.
How does a traditional marriage agency work?
In a decent agency, they will check your documents, ask about the reasons for applying, ask you to pass psychological tests and clearly indicate who you are looking for. A cooperation agreement is not concluded with everyone. Married, mentally ill, seeking wealth and not ready to work on themselves, most likely, they will fail the test.
If the first stage is completed successfully, a contract is drawn up with the client. At the same time, no one gives a 100% guarantee of marriage. The agency only undertakes to provide within a specified period (usually 2-6 months) a sufficient number of suitable candidates. Somewhere their clear number is prescribed, somewhere not.
Then the fun begins: the search for partners and dates. Potential future spouses are shown photos and talk about each other's lives. If everything suits them, the man is given the girl's phone number, and he makes an appointment. Often, clients are offered to hold several meetings with candidates at once and choose the right one. It is immediately stipulated that the initial meeting is not a date yet. You communicate with each other, compare goals, discuss pitfalls - something like an interview for the position of the bride and groom with a trial period.
After the meeting, clients call the curators and share their impressions.
“We recommend seeing the person again. I believe that only after the third meeting can conclusions be drawn, because each person can have circumstances. For example, we had a case when a man had a difficult conflict situation at work on the day of the meeting. He, as a responsible and decent person, came anyway, but he was all in his thoughts. It seemed to the woman that he was not very interested in her, but in fact he just had a hard day, "Olga, a psychologist and consultant of the Vizavi agency, shares Korneev.
If everything went well and the couple formed, the clients still have the opportunity to use the services of the agency during the term of the contract. You can, for example, come to a consultation with a psychologist, get advice on creating relationships. Or ask to find a new party if the relationship broke up quickly.
Some agencies do things differently, such as creating client profiles on dating sites and corresponding with other users on their behalf. Or they make fake accounts, invite them on a date with a obviously unsuitable candidate, and then lure them in and offer to conclude an agreement in order to find someone more decent.
You can stumble upon gigolos, money-hungry women or mentally inadequate people.
Agencies "not for everyone"
To find out how a soul mate is sought in an elite society, we went to a targeted search marriage agency that works with executives and business owners, top managers and expats. Here, partner search technologies differ from ordinary marriage agencies and, moreover, are classified.
It is only known that candidates are found in business clubs, closed business communities and at closed social events, and, for example, data from recruitment agencies are used as information sources for searching.
An agreement is concluded with clients, which states that they will be provided with many candidates for the role of a life partner. It is valid for four months - that's how much on average it takes to prepare a person for a meeting, find a couple and start a primary relationship.
Contracts, again, are not concluded with everyone. The stop list includes those who are focused only on money or are not ready to change to solve personal problems. “If a unkempt woman or a unkempt man comes to us, who flatly refuse the services of a stylist and are not ready to work on themselves, we cannot help them,” says Ekaterina Gushchina, head of projects at the target search marriage agency Heart-Hunter.
Acquaintances take place at events in which up to 150-200 people take part, such meetings are held every week, sometimes more often.
Our clients choose candidates and meet at a social event, without the candidate knowing that the acquaintance was initiated and prepared. Often a man begins to court a woman, not suspecting that their meeting is not accidental.
Ekaterina Gushchina
project manager of target search marriage agency Heart-Hunter
It usually takes two to four events to find a mate. Friendship develops with someone, and someone remains nearby in the role of a loved one. As in marriage agencies, here clients prefer not to talk about how they met their life partner.
To pick up a pair during the term of the contract is obtained in 85% of cases. With the rest of the clients, additional events are held with the participation of psychologists and stylists.
Dating at parties
Another way to get acquainted is to go to a party, for example, speed dating. Speed dates take place in clubs or restaurants, last for several minutes, after which the partners change. Entrance to the event costs from 500 rubles, mainly people from 35 to 45 years old participate in them, younger ones are rare.
As Elena Korotaeva, director of the Seventh Heaven dating club, said, 25% of people manage to find a couple at a party.
Expert opinion
We use the practice of speed dating. If it's a club party, there may be game elements. For example, men are given keys, and women are given locks, or they have halves of the picture that need to be combined. The game helps people to approach each other, sit down, start talking
Elena Korotaeva
director of the dating club "Seventh Heaven"
According to Elena, in this business, not all couples hide the way they met - many bring friends, send photos of children and even invite them to weddings.
Attention scammers!
Having decided to apply to a marriage agency, one must always be on the alert. Muscovites are increasingly complaining about unscrupulous marriage agencies. According to experts, every third client is dissatisfied with the level of such services.
The method of work of "black matchmakers" is almost the same. A person makes an advance payment, and then a marriage contract is concluded with him. Within a few days he is promised to find a suitable match. Time passes, but no appointments are made. When calling the organization, the consultant who signed the contract, as a rule, is not on site.
In order not to fall for the bait, remember the simple rules:
- before contacting the agency, study the reviews about its work on the Internet;
- be sure to demand to provide you with documents confirming the legal status of the organization;
- most reputable agencies will offer you a free initial consultation;
- Be sure to keep receipts confirming payment for services. This may help you if the case goes to court.
This is not only a long and hard work, but also a matter of chance. Sometimes women and men do not know how to find love and why the opposite sex does not pay attention to them. A series of failures gives rise to complexes and personal experiences that are not so easy to deal with. That is why employees of the marriage agency come to the rescue.
They can offer partner which is perfect for you. Many argue that a marriage agency is not the only reason to find love, but what if you are not lucky?
You can keep looking for your soulmate. half and the most ideal partner for life, or you can turn to specialists who will help you achieve positive results much faster. But if you want to know in advance all the pros and cons of the work of such organizations, then this article is for you. Let's figure out what are the disadvantages and advantages of marriage agencies and how to milk the result.
Advantages of marriage agencies
1. Positive statistics from marriage agencies. In fact, there are a huge number of happy married couples around the world whose members found each other through a marriage agency. Of course, no one can give you a guarantee that you will find a partner after a certain amount of time or that you will find it at all, but this way the probability increases significantly.
The database that the specialist provides you has all the people who match your request, so this way you increase your opportunities for strong relationships at times. In fact, there are men and women who have created strong families, given birth to healthy children and are happy together thanks to the professionalism of the marriage agency workers, so you should definitely try it.
2. A large selection of people who are right for you at marriage agencies. Marriage agencies employ real professionals who help people find their soul mate. In life, you need to spend a lot of time and effort in order to find those who suit you. If you turn to marriage agencies for help, then you will only go on dates with those who match your request. Real professionals work here, who are interested in finding a partner for yourself, because this is the only way to prove the effectiveness of this activity.
3. Interesting evenings of meetings of marriage agencies. Many marriage agencies have a tradition of organizing events where clients are present. This will help you find the right person and gain confidence in yourself. Meeting evenings are held in a relaxed atmosphere, where everyone can feel confident and meet interesting people. A personal meeting with a potential partner is a great opportunity to get to know a person better, and not just to study information about him and look at photos. So you will have fun, chat with interesting people, brighten up your leisure time and, perhaps, find your soul mate.
4. Variety of partners and. Some marriage agencies are engaged not only in finding a potential partner, but also in organizing dates. If relatively recently you only went to a local cafe and visited a cinema on the outskirts of the city, now even traveling abroad is possible. In life, it is not so easy to understand that a particular person is in search of a couple, so it is more difficult to get acquainted and choose. The marriage agency will provide you with a huge list of people who are ready for a new relationship. Perhaps you will like a hot Italian or a gallant Englishman, or maybe you will like a young black girl with a gorgeous figure.
Cons of a marriage agency
1. A short period of work of the agency in the service market. This means that the client base is not that big, and you will have to wait quite a long time until the right person is selected for you. In principle, there is nothing wrong with this, but the more you wait, the more money you will pay, which is also very beneficial for agency employees. It is unlikely that you will be able to predict the result of your cooperation with a marriage agency, but you can search the Internet for information about the organization: how long it has been working and how many satisfied customers. Some marriage agencies work solely to get money, and the client's desire for them is in last place. Think carefully about where exactly it is better to go, because you can spend money in vain, but still not get what you wanted.
2. Fraud. There are also such marriage agencies where your data and photos are posted on dating sites in order to attract the attention of potential partners. A fairly effective technique, but you can do the same at home. Before asking for help from employees of marriage agencies, register on a dating site and try to find an interlocutor on your own. Of course, this will take time, but it's worth a try. If nothing works out for you, feel free to go to a marriage agency. If you doubt the integrity of the people to whom you paid money, from time to time check using the search method to see if your page is on the site without your permission to register.
3. Data inconsistency. Sometimes it is quite difficult to understand what kind of person is in front of you, especially when you know only a few facts about him. Don't forget that you only know as much about a potential partner as you were given information. Therefore, sometimes it is difficult to find a common language with a person who, according to the description in the questionnaire, seems to be ideally suited to you. It is very good if you understand that you are not suitable for each other at the beginning of a relationship, because it also happens that marriages fall apart, families break up. Do not always start only from what is written in the questionnaire, because in life this person may not be at all what you expected to see him.
In the current age of high technology, finding a soul mate is difficult. People are busy with careers and earning money. Time for rest and live communication is limited. Scientists have calculated that today's probability of finding a husband or wife in a big city on their own is 3-5 percent. Maybe that's why the services of marriage agencies are now so popular. AiF.ru spoke with Anastasia Ivanova, a psychologist of one of the marriage agencies, about the pros and cons of finding a second half through a matchmaker.
Myth 1. A marriage agency will find me a husband or wife.
I faced this attitude of clients every day of my work. I want everyone to understand right away: the agency is not obliged to marry you or give you in marriage. It does not even guarantee that you will find a mate with it. Marriage agencies have 4-5 couples a year who register a marriage - a good result. The people working in the agency are just matchmakers. They provide intermediary services. Their task is to bring single people together, and then the couple builds relationships on their own. Therefore, before turning to matchmakers, a man or woman must clearly understand who exactly they want to find.
In my practice, there was a case when a single woman sued a marriage agency for not finding her a husband. A woman under 50. She came to the matchmakers with a request to find her a prince on a white horse. Her desire is understandable, but the person needs to be explained: he, too, must make an effort to match the prince. Efforts are not so much external as internal. We need to talk, test a person. And only after that start working with him and conclude an agreement.
However, such work was not carried out with this lady, and she, alone, tired and embittered, went to court.
Myth 2. Only alcoholics and ladies of easy virtue come to the marriage agency
Let me tell you, this is a stereotype. Over the years of my work, I have also met quite wealthy business women, ballerinas, fashion models, lawyers and journalists. There were also those who studied abroad for a long time. And among the men, I came across a young man whose fortune totals several million dollars. He is a foreigner. There are a lot of them in the database. They are looking for a Russian woman who can keep a life. After all, servants also need to be able to manage. Men also often come across scientists, singers and businessmen. There are deputies and prosecutors.Myth 3. Matchmakers just to get money, but single people don’t give a damn
This is partly true. There are representatives of this business who will take off the last shirt from the client. They start demanding money from the first consultation. It costs about 1000 rubles to fill out several sheets of paper. They take money for the contacts of the person they like. Moreover, the higher the social status of the person with whom the client wants to meet, the higher the rate. For example, we have a gradation of male profiles: “economy”, “business” and “vip”. The “economy” folder included men with average incomes. Their phone number costs 3000. "Business" - customers with higher incomes, their phone number cost 5000, VIP - these are oligarchs, deputies, security officials with high epaulettes. Their contacts cost more than 10,000 rubles. We have a setting: ladies who do not meet the wishes and level of the client should not be shown them. Women are divided into groups according to age. The older the client, the cheaper.
It is more profitable, of course, to immediately buy a subscription for a year. Here the price policy is determined by age. The most expensive is female. It is designed for ladies aged 40 and above. The search for the second half will cost them from 15,000 to 25,000 rubles a year. This is explained by the fact that it is difficult to find a spouse. For men aged 40 and over, the subscription is cheaper. He can find a chosen one for only 5,000-10,000 rubles a year. And if he wants a younger wife, he will have to pay 20,000 rubles.
If you are lucky with the agency, the amount will be announced to the client only after careful work with him. I have had to say no to a person several times. For example, a man came, he is 60. The stomach sticks out, there is no grooming. He wants to meet a girl 18-20 years old. He sits and praises himself: "Not old, wealthy and in full bloom." But I see him, he is far from Carlson. And in 5-10 years he will turn into a decrepit old man. I told him honestly about it, he threatened to sue.
Myth 4. Data from the database is closed
Bases are sold to other agencies. The list of clients needs to be replenished. Mostly men are at risk, there are fewer male profiles, and they are worth their weight in gold. The cost of one questionnaire is 1000 rubles. The agency will gladly give away a client that is difficult to work with. Often this is done by dishonest marriage agencies. More serious matchmakers value their reputation. Therefore, when contacting an agency, get on the Internet and read where you carry your data. And if there will be at least two or three negative reviews, think about whether it is worth giving money for an unguaranteed result and for the possible sale of information about yourself.
