Experiment: how I went to a marriage agency. Get married, get married, or is it worth trusting marriage agencies

Hurry is an essential part of life. The portrait of a modern urban dweller is a purposeful, eternally busy character. How to find love and meet? Many still prefer dating sites, where any asocial person can pretend to be the son of a deputy. Marriage agency is reliable. But it hasn't received "mass following" yet. Here is a list of misconceptions.

Myth No. 1 - Marriage agency - the territory of losers

A common stereotype. A person comes from hopelessness. Nobody needs him in real life. The truth is that clients, on the contrary, are successful and busy people who, due to lack of time, cannot get to know each other. The matchmaker explains: the circle of contacts of such persons is small, and it is difficult to find a party that will not pursue only money.

Myth #2 - Contacting an agency is embarrassing and inconvenient

Funny statement. You go to a gynecologist, a dentist for an appointment, if you feel unwell, need advice, treatment. Marriage agency in Moscow - a similar assistance. Just not used to it. No neighbors, relatives will know anything. The information is confidential. You decide whether to voice it or not.

Myth #3 - Love by correspondence is a utopia

Psychologists say: it is easier to reveal oneself, one's intentions, and inner content in letters. The first meeting is always awkward and sticking out the best qualities. That is, acquaintance by correspondence is real thoughts and emotions. And then, there will be a long-awaited meeting. Everything is so in our marriage agency!

Myth No. 4 - The contingent is drinking, anxious and frivolous men

That's what most women think. This misconception is closely intertwined with the first myth. You don't even need to look for such men. Go to any free dating site. The matchmaker is an interested person, so candidates are selected carefully. After all, they pay money for the opportunity to find their only one. How can you talk about frivolity? The database contains profiles of football players, deputies, lawyers. You can really find an interesting man!

Myth #5 - Contact information falls into the wrong hands

A good marriage agency, including ours, values ​​its reputation. Putting the safety of customers in question is unacceptable. Before filling out the information in the questionnaire, make inquiries about the agency. It can be reviews and other information. Contact us. Matchmaker Elena works legally and has the relevant documents.

Myth #6 - Marriage agency does not help, but only pumps out money

Agency - the same service as a beauty salon, for example. The team includes: stylist, psychologist, astrologer, coach. They will arrange a meeting for you, arrange a photo session. Cheap does not mean effective, and expensive does not equal justified. Pricing is based on many factors. The Matchmaker has the task of "bringing" the couple together. This is a plus for reputation. There is no task - to extort money. Real marriages are the merit of the well-coordinated work of the agency. Another statistic: in recent years, the number of lonely hearts has decreased by 20%. And 65% of them met their significant other at a marriage agency! Doubt? Ask for a report, and then you will find out how many happy unions there are "in the lifetime" of this organization.

Myth #7 - I will be offered candidates who are clearly not my type.

Meetings are by mutual agreement. If you do not like the applicant for the hand and heart, then there will be no meeting. There is no risk that another person will come at all, as often happens in the vastness of Internet dating. All forms are checked. You are safe!

Myth #8 - I have to be married off!

The matchmaker is not a sorceress and it is not in her power to produce "chemistry" between people. The team working in the agency takes all possible steps to find the right candidate. If a man is not interested in your profile, we will not make him change his mind. But the chances of meeting your happiness are much higher when contacting an agency! We will give information about you "delicious" and "beautiful".

Myth #9 - It's very expensive!

But no more expensive than using the Internet for a year, when you are constantly "spinning" on dating sites. Any agency has a list of services, and you are not required to use all of them. Usually there are programs. Contact us and personally develop the myth of the high price!

Myth #10 - Brides are looking for financial help, and wealthy clients are looking for young companions.

The most "sharp" myth that Elena the Matchmaker wants to dispel. According to statistics, people of different incomes and social status come to the agency. You need to honestly fill out a questionnaire, and you will find your person. Wealthy men want a reliable and faithful companion. They are set to create a family, so it is unlikely that their need includes acquaintance with a young and frivolous person.

1. The first client of the marriage agency is a resident of London!
2. 80% of alliances with foreigners concluded through an agency last for many years.
3. International Day of Marriage Agencies is celebrated on February 12!
4. They have been around for 360 years!

Attention: Beware of the "huge database of profiles". This is an indicator of "dead souls" and "ballast". It is better if the agency's portfolio is "fluid". That is, it should be replenished regularly, as existing pairs leave it.

Are you ready to find your destiny? Register with our Marriage Agency. May you live happily ever after.

To be objective, I persuaded four of my friends to use the services of both Dating Sites and Marriage Agencies, especially since it was not difficult to do this, all five of us at that time were without permanent life partners, all of different ages (the youngest of us is 22 years, the eldest - 61), three - with children, moreover, the age of children from 7 months to 38 years, two - without children and, most importantly, all in anticipation of great personal happiness!

This is the data of my girlfriends, changing their names
1) Lydia - 61 years old, primary school teacher, two children aged 38 and 30, widow.
2) Natalia - 40 years old, head of a construction company, 1 child - 20 years old, divorced.
3) Irina - 37 years old, university teacher, no children, not married.
4) Elena - 28 years old, seller, two children - 7 months and 5 years old, divorced.
5) Oksana - 22 years old, student, no children, not married.

We all talked and decided during the year to try to find life partners using the services of Marriage Agencies and Dating Sites. Moreover, we all live in different cities, but in this case it was more of a plus than a minus, we decided to register on completely different sites and contact different agencies.

With varying success, we “cooked” in this process for almost a year, called up, met, drank coffee together, cried and laughed, shared our joys and disappointments, I can only tell you one thing for sure - it was very interesting, informative and one might even say effective. And, most importantly, the three of us successfully built relationships.
Well, in addition to all the above "carrots", I also managed to conduct my own mini-study, that is, now I will share my observations and conclusions with you.

To be honest, at the beginning of the journey, all five of us were definitely more serious about Marriage Agencies, somehow they inspired us more confidence, their pages were full of photographs of women, the texts promised an individual approach and the selection of a partner according to psychological characteristics, phone numbers urged us to call them, and photos of happy couples promised quick and unearthly happiness, which, we were sure, would definitely find us, so different and so similar in our desire to meet our soul mate.

And we did it!

Each of us found a Marriage Agency in our city, phoned and met with their representative at the appointed time. All five of us were met by hospitable girls, smiling, pleasant in communication, offered to fill out questionnaires, moreover, in 4 of them, for some reason, the questionnaires were in printed form (in our then age of Internet technologies), photos could be brought both printed and in electronic form, moreover, they asked for several, at least three, but more is better - so that there is plenty to choose from. If there is no photo, they carefully recommended "full-time" photographers who, for "small" money, were ready to take the necessary pictures for us.
The questionnaire included standard questions, height, weight, age. It was striking that there were much more questions about a woman than questions about the desired chosen one.

From my personal experience:
the agency office was located on one of the central streets of the capital, the room was small, I was met by a young girl who answered most of my questions like
How is the whole process going?
“How many couples have you successfully introduced?”
Are there any guarantees?
“How exactly do you check the men you will then propose as suitors?”

in response to all these questions, she muttered something indistinct or like
"Well, what guarantees?"
"We can't guarantee you anything"
"There are a lot of profiles of women"
“Existing couples - of course, there are many ...”

To be honest, my optimism has noticeably diminished already there, in the office of this "elite" Marriage Agency.

Myself process I found out for myself that it is simple, and I was able to answer many questions for myself already in the process of “cooperation”.
1. Women come to the office, fill out questionnaires, give photos, sign a primitive agreement that their data can be used on the World Wide Web, plus you must provide your passport so that the Marriage Agency is sure that you do not have a stamp there about marriage.
2. Apparently, the same manager enters these data and photos on the website of the Marriage Agency. A few days later, a woman can even “find herself” there, check whether everything was entered correctly.
3. From now on, communication between the woman and the Agency takes place by e-mail, i.e. if you want to change something - write them a letter and, I advise, the next business day, if you do not receive a response to this letter, it is better to call and talk to the manager.

What is happening on the other side, I found out later, talking with one of my potential suitors.

Men can register on the English version of the site of the Marriage Agency, view the profiles of brides and, if they like someone, they can write to this girl, but ...
This is where things get interesting.
From this stage, a man who has at least some active intentions must pay the agency. In the Agency where I was registered, it cost a man 50 US dollars for the opportunity to communicate with 5 girls.

What was meant by communication?
A man could write letters for these girls and get answers to them, everything is super, but “BUT” popped up again
He can do all this only through the Marriage Agency, i.e. he writes letters for “Oksana d546”, to the Agency's e-mail, and the Agency, in turn, copies this letter and sends it to the woman along with a brief questionnaire and several photographs of the groom.
The woman answers the groom, moreover, she can write both in a foreign language and in her native Russian. If a transfer is necessary, the potential fiancé will, of course, pay for it additionally to the Marriage Agency.

Also, for $50, the agency offered a man 1 hour of Skype conversation with a selected woman, i.e. the man chose the girl, informed the Agency about it, the manager called her, sent (or “did not have time” to send, as was the case in my case) the groom’s data and photo, invited her to come to the office to communicate with the man on Skype and you talk to him in the presence of a representative of the Agency. Before this video meeting, I was instructed for half an hour what can and cannot be said to the groom. Of course, you can’t say your personal data, such as address, phone, skype, email, it is advisable to smile and “beautifully” keep up the conversation.

Plus, the Agency usually offers a man to send bouquets of flowers, soft toys, sweets to the bride (brides) he likes ... for a fee, of course.

Sometimes men, after some time of correspondence, even decide to come and get acquainted personally with the bride (more often with brides). Pay for such a tour organized by the Marriage Agency separately. I won't even write the amount. It is very decent, but quite reasonable, I think.
The agency takes care of meeting the groom, transferring him from the airport and back, renting an apartment and organizing + holding meetings with the brides. Under the conduct means the acquaintance of the bride and groom in the office of a marriage agency, and, if necessary, the services of an interpreter at an additional hourly payment from the groom.

Everything looks just perfect for a woman. When working with the Marriage Agency, she risks nothing and, most importantly, she pays nothing.

So the advantages of finding a husband through a Marriage Agency:
- for a woman it is completely free
- if you do not speak any of the foreign languages, you will be kindly provided with the services of translating letters and an interpreter at a personal meeting with the groom
- you have no risks when meeting with a stranger, an interpreter may be present at the meeting (a nice person who sometimes entertains you better than the groom), you will have a great time in a restaurant, on a ship or just walking in the park
- you will not have the "hassle" associated with renting a hotel or apartment for a man, with his transfer from / to the airport, with how to entertain him and what to show him.
- there will not even be a problem how to get rid of it if you do not like it. In this case, you can simply call the representative of the Agency after the meeting and say “I don’t like it, I don’t want it anymore”. Further, it is no longer your concern how they will explain it to him, console him, etc., if you did not give him your contact details, of course.

It is very important that in this case you avoid the most unpleasant moment, believe me, this is one of the most difficult tasks - to tell the groom who has flown thousands of kilometers away "you are not my hero."

And don’t bother yourself with this, the Marriage Agency will “comfort” him very quickly by offering to choose a new bride on their website and immediately organize a new meeting with a new bride. By the way, I think one day I became such a comforting bride, of course, not knowing about it at that time.

From my personal experience:

Just in the middle of the working day, they called me from the Marriage Agency, politely asking “Am I still married?”, Since we have not been in contact for the last few months, the second question was “Am I in the city now, am I on a business trip, etc. .?” and, having received the answers “yes” and “no”, respectively, they offered to go on a date with the arrived groom in the evening.

Out of surprise, I had to sharply apply the brakes of the car and urgently look for parking to take a breath and somehow “digest the situation”. By the time I found a free seat on the sidewalk, the girl “at the other end of the line” had already told me the time, the meeting place, and asking me not to be late, hung up.

So, exactly at seven o'clock in the evening, I was already opening the door of a small but cozy cafe in the city center in anticipation of "the meeting of my life."
In the afternoon, in a telephone conversation with a representative of the Marriage Agency, I found out that my potential fiancé is 43 years old, he is an architect, an Englishman (as it turned out later, not quite an Englishman).

In the cafe hall, a girl approached me, probably the one who called me in the afternoon and escorted me to one of the tables, where my fiancé was sitting a little hunched over. He looked about 50 years old, grayish complexion spoke of fatigue, one would have thought that he had just come from the airport and suffered at least a 12-hour flight.

The girl introduced us to each other and prepared to translate simultaneously. After a few phrases, I politely specified that I could communicate perfectly in English and did not need an interpreter, which noticeably embarrassed her. But after 5 minutes I was left at the table alone with the groom.

We drank coffee and just talked like a human being. I found out that he really works as an architect and lives in a small town near London, a Jew, married three times, three adult children, looking for a young wife from Eastern Europe. When asked why it was from Eastern Europe, he told something about devotion and subtleties to the Slavic soul. And I looked at him and he did not evoke any emotions in my soul except pity.

He was in our country for the third day, and in general he bought a tour for 5 days at the Marriage Agency, that he corresponded through the agency with a woman, but at a personal meeting it turned out that he did not speak a word of English and even studied German at school. That in the office of the same Marriage Agency, he “staggered around the site” and chose several more women for meetings, among which I was lucky to get.

So, having chatted with him for several hours, helping him pass the cold autumn evening, I learned the story of another already middle-aged and rather "shabby life" lonely man who, like millions of other people around the world, tried to find the reflection of his soul in the eyes of another human...

It is worth noting that I did not receive any more calls from this Marriage Agency and our next communication, about half a year after meeting with the “English” groom, was initiated by me in order to remove my profile from their website. I would like to note that they deleted my profile for more than 20 days.

Analyzing our successes, my friends and I came to the following conclusions about dating through marriage agencies:

- Conclusion one - in addition to all the above pluses that I described above, through Marriage Agencies, women and girls are more likely to arrange their personal lives, who, when filling out the questionnaire, indicate a minimum knowledge of a foreign language and always note that they need the help of an interpreter when writing letters and at meetings.

This conclusion was obtained purely experimentally, after two of us, namely those who did not speak a foreign language, began to correspond with the suitors, and then also went to several meetings. I, having plucked up the audacity, and in order to get confirmation or refutation of my theory about languages, filled out a questionnaire in another Marriage Agency, exactly on the next street from my first Agency. But already in the question about the level of proficiency in a foreign language, she wrote the following: “I have minimal knowledge, but I am ready to learn if necessary,” and a checkmark next to the phrase “I need the help of an interpreter.” So, in three months I met with three applicants for a hand and a heart. Maybe in the second agency I was just more lucky ...

By the way, when filling out questionnaires at Marriage Agencies, the manager usually clarifies whether a woman is already cooperating with any other agencies, and when filling out my second questionnaire at Agency No. 2, I kept silent on this question, let his employees forgive me.

- second conclusion - photos should be beautiful, but not studio, better at home, or in the park, so that with makeup, but not conspicuous.
- third conclusion - again, only from our experience - through Marriage Agencies more likely to meet a man aged 45 and older. Of course, I am familiar with the statistics at what age in developed countries men think about starting a family. But 45-50 years old are usually already men “with their own history”, and this is far from their first attempt in this field.
- conclusion four - most Marriage Agencies work exclusively with foreign grooms, it just so happened that for those who would not mind considering the grooms living “on the next street”, most of the Marriage Agencies found by us are not suitable.

And, at the end of the conversation about Marriage Agencies, all five of us noted one very big minus in working with them,
PRACTICALLY NOTHING DEPENDS ON A WOMAN IN COOPERATION WITH A MARRIAGE AGENCY, this is such a passive search for your happiness - through the Marriage Agency, first of all, they CHOOSE YOU.

Your task is to truthfully fill out the questionnaire, provide the Agency with photos and continue to wait and pray, first that the groom likes you and chooses you, and then that you like him.
Although for some this may be a plus.

In my next part, I will share the experience of finding happiness through dating sites, but this is a topic for a separate story.

If you are interested, write it in your comments, I am ready to answer your questions and good luck to you!

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How lucky are those people who met soul mates in their daily lives, or even if they had a chance meeting, but still they took this chance to build a happy relationship and family. But what about those people who do not find a passion in their environment or they do not have enough time for work? Increasingly, lonely hearts turn to organizations that are just engaged in the selection of the ideal partner for married life - marriage agencies.

Is it worth contacting a marriage agency?

As practice shows, marriage agencies do a really effective job and the marriages they conclude break up extremely rarely. Clients fill out questionnaires, leaving as much information about themselves as possible, as well as requirements for their partner (external, moral and psychological). Psychologists, astrologers and photo editors work with them in order to compile a beautiful portfolio. Further, professional employees of the marriage agency select couples that meet the requirements for each other. Here on the website of the marriage agency you can find questions that will be of interest to everyone.

A serious marriage agency employs real professionals with experience who can find you the perfect partner. In addition, you will have the opportunity to go on a date or spend time with interesting people. If your work takes too much of your time, then this is ideal. By leaving your profile here on the website of the marriage agency, our staff will select for you all possible candidates who may be of interest to you.

You should not assume that the services of such organizations are used only by losers who themselves cannot organize their personal lives or by people who are full of psychological problems. On the contrary, their services are used by successful men and women who do not have time to build their personal lives. The services of marriage agencies are paid, starting from at least one of these factors, it can already be judged that a man pays for helping him create a happy and strong family and he is determined. Women can work here with the marriage agency website absolutely free of charge. And this does not oblige them to communicate with all the men who will want to get acquainted. No one is forcing anything, communication or the development of relations is built only on the consent of both parties. If anyone is interested in trainings for women, then welcome to the site

As already mentioned, the services of marriage agencies for men are paid, which is why such agencies are increasingly created by scammers. But before leaving information about yourself, both men and women, you should definitely check the availability of a valid license, a normal office, a legal address and a seal, as well as a bank account of such an organization in order to make sure that the marriage agency is competent. It would not be superfluous to find out how many successful marriages are concluded with the help of this agency per year, as well as to communicate with one (-th) of such lucky ones.

Of course, no one gives a 100% guarantee that you will find a soul mate in the shortest possible time. Moreover, not everyone always writes the truth about themselves when filling out questionnaires, so sometimes the first impression can be deceiving. Only individual communication and joint pastime will help to get to know the person better and understand whether you are suitable for each other or not. At least, new acquaintances and pleasant emotions are provided to you.

And yet, do not be afraid to seek help from a marriage agency, this is a great chance to build a happy family. Who knows, maybe professional matchmakers will help you find the person of your dreams…

Unfortunately, in our society there is a very unflattering stereotype that only outsiders who are not successful with representatives of the opposite sex apply to marriage agencies. Girls try to keep secret the fact of registration in this or that marriage agency: “What will people think?”. However, the fear of being exposed in the eyes of others becomes instantly forgotten after the very first successful romantic date with a man. Hence, the stereotype is very unfair, and marriage agencies are really a godsend for a modern girl.

Let's be realists, not each of us is lucky to find love on our own, having gone all the way to building a strong house of happy relationships using the “own rake” method and without outside help. However, it is important for each of us to be a beloved and loving girl. Therefore, we cannot afford to take risks when it comes to finding a partner. We need the right person who can share our interests and goals, and who, in the end, will turn out to be our soulmate. Why leave it to chance when you can turn to real cupids for advice and help? A marriage agency is a place where your desire to find a life partner with whom you can start a family and find the desired happiness will be treated with understanding and professionalism.

A professional marriage agency respects how highly a modern girl values ​​her time, striving to spend it efficiently. How often have you felt morally exhausted and regretted the wasted time, corresponding with people whose communication did not bring you positive emotions, but only made you disappointed in the relationship? By doing the most painstaking part of the search for you, the marriage agency saves you a lot of time and energy, which in the future you will spend on choosing an outfit for an upcoming date. Your potential partner is already interested in getting to know you, so the only thing left for the two of you is to enjoy communicating with each other.

Professional marriage agencies are engaged not only in finding a partner and creating couples, but also in organizing dates, the main goal of which is to create the right atmosphere between a man and a woman, taking into account the wishes of both.

Marriage agencies are interested in the success of your "project", because this is how they can measure the effectiveness of their work. Having seen enough of the huge number of incredibly spectacular girls who cross the threshold of our office every day, I seriously thought about how hard our team works, trying to find an individual approach to each client and satisfy the requirements of her search. Talented, educated, beautiful, well-groomed girls living in a modern rhythm are not an easy task for a marriage agency, however, we are used to challenging ourselves on the site every day. We are inspired by the stories of our joint success, in which there really is a place for a romantic fairy tale with the magic of the birth of real feelings, beautiful confessions, emotional partings and long-awaited meetings with a loved one, and, finally, marriage proposals.

Even the most inveterate skeptics cannot deny the existence of a huge number of couples around the world created thanks to the professionalism of marriage agency workers. We can spend a lifetime searching for the perfect partner, but is it worth it when success in your personal life is so real and much closer than you think. Dear girls, remember that your happiness is only in your hands, and the choice is always yours.