• General tone of the first letter

First impressions last forever

Your first letter is your first personal contact with a man, and it depends on it whether or not your relationship will be in the future. You will never get a second chance to make a first impression. There is an expression in English: "First impressions last" - the first impressions remain for a long time.

The principle of constructing the first letter

Whether you're responding to an ad or a potential candidate's email, the principle of building your first email is the same.

The first letter to a man should be long enough to interest him, but not get bored - 1.5-2 pages. It should be informative, but at the same time entertaining and interesting. A little bit of humor is always welcome.

And, of course, it must be in English (or in the native language of the man). A man is unlikely to run to look for an interpreter; rather, he would prefer to answer another letter. Prepare the initial "sample" of the first letter, and in the future you will only have to vary the details slightly, sending it to different men.

Begin the letter with "Hi", or "Dear", putting the man's name after the address. "Hi" has an informal connotation, "Dear" is more strict, usually translated as "respected". Mention where you got the man's address from if you are the initiator of the contact. Say that you are looking for just such a partner as him, and quote a few phrases from his own description.

If you are the initiator of the contact, mention where you got the man's address from. Say that you are looking for just such a partner as he is, and quote a few phrases from his own description.

If you are replying to a man's letter, first of all thank him for his attention and warm letter, and say that you really liked it (I suppose if you did not like the letter, you will just write a short note with a refusal). It is important to show the man that you carefully read his ad or profile, and not just send the same letter to everyone. Quote or paraphrase a couple of phrases that you liked the most and say that you think that you might be right for each other (I think we may be right for each other) and that you would like to start corresponding with him to find out is that so (I would be happy to start corresponding with you and get to know each other better).

Briefly tell us who you live with, whether you have brothers and sisters, what education you received, where and with whom you work. This whole "autobiography" should not take up more than half a page - but it is very important, Western people attach great importance to family ties.

Next, tell us what kind of person you are, what you like and dislike, what you value in people, what you dream about, what place your family occupies in your life. If you have children, tell a little about them, especially if the man also has children. (For more on what to say about yourself, see What to say about yourself.)

When talking about your positive qualities, sometimes it seems inconvenient to "overpraise" yourself - give your description as if from the words of others ("My friends say that I am ..." - "My friends say that I ..."). Tell us in detail about your hobbies - not just "I love music", but what kind of music do you prefer, what bands are your favorite. If you have animals in the house, tell us about them, about funny cases with them and in general about funny cases with you, if they are "in the subject."

Ask a few questions about what you would like to know about the man, about his country. It is desirable that questions about the country be more specific; let the man know that you already know a lot about his homeland, but would like to know more.

A man should feel that he is interesting to you. Ask if he is going to come to Russia, and if he is going to, then when he plans to travel. Say that you will be happy to be his guide when he arrives.

How to make your writing stand out from others

Try to make your letter original, the way you yourself would like to receive. Constantly correct and supplement the original sample.

At one time, within a few months, I wrote a wonderful first letter, to which I received about 9 responses for 10 letters sent (with an average coefficient of 2-3 responses). My knowledge of English at that time left much to be desired, to put it mildly, and I constantly had difficulty expressing my thoughts. How to find a way out of this situation?

I used letters I received from men. When I found an idea, phrase, or expression I liked, I included it in my sample letter. Gradually, I came up with a great message - interesting, fun and, most importantly, 100% "English".

Your letter should not give the impression that you are unhappy. It should come from a woman who is completely satisfied with herself, life and others, but who is not enough for the complete happiness of a loved one.

Topics that should not be developed in the first letter: problems in everyday life, shortcomings of Russian men, unsuccessful marriages, politics, your salary, problems with money or health, drugs and alcohol in Russia, etc. You don't want a man to think that a foreign marriage is just a means to escape from the harsh Russian reality for you, do you?

General tone of the first letter

Try to carry on as if you were already friends. Do not be afraid of men - they are afraid of you. Ask the man to answer your letter, write that you are really looking forward to his answer.

Be sure to include your photo. The photo does not have to be professional - a high-quality amateur one will do. If the photo is not from a studio, write a short comment about where and when it was taken.

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Zanevskaya Irina. School No. 1, Neryungri, Republic of Sakha (Yakutia), Russia
Essay in English with translation. Nomination Our world.

A Letter to a Foreign Friend

Hello, my kind friend! (Sure, you are kind, because I hope that you will like my letter.)

Such an unusual letter I write not in my native language for the first time. I would like to tell you as more as I can about me and my country where I live.

My name is Ira and, perhaps, you've already guessed that I'm from Russia. I'm 16 and I study in the 10th Grade of the High Comprehensive School. I am active at learning of English, because I like this subject infinitely. I'm keen on athletics and swimming. Also I'm fond of music: I enjoy singing and playing the piano and the guitar. I adore reading. I like intellectual plays and humorous competitions. My friends say I am kind and funny.

I live in a small but the most beautiful town of the Eastern Siberia which is called Neryungri. It is situated on the banks of the river Chulman in the South of Yakutia. My country is very big and I live only in a small corner of it - in the North-Eastern part of our immense Motherland - the Republic of Sakha. May be you have heard about my republic (I hope it). It is famous by extraction of diamonds, gold, coal and uranium which was discovered lately. It is known for many people but I would foresee and answer all the questions of foreigners who might have not so correct opinion about Yakutia.

Yes, of course, it is very cold and snowy here, but I am hurrying to distress you: our houses are not made from ice. It's not necessary to rake the snow with our hands for to get out from the house in the morning. Of course, there are a lot of dear inhabited this land and they are very beautiful and powerful, but we don’t use them for to get to school and to work. The Evenk people who are an ethnic minority living in the North and keeping the rove lifestyle use such a type of transport.

Yes, I saw great brown bears, but only in the circus. Of course, there were times indeed, when these animals came to the town territory, but it was happened very seldom. Only a strong sense of hungry can make a wild bear to go to people, but in the majority of such rare cases the city noise frightens bears very much and they don’t come out too close to the populated places.

Of course, "Balalaika" and "garmoshka" are considered to be the national musical instruments, but not everybody can play them. Russian children are taught playing all kinds of international instruments at musical schools. We are very proud of learning traditions of all the countries of the world. I guess I dispersed the most famous myths about our Motherland. It isn't a joke; simply I try to see a humor in everything. My friends know I am very cheerful and I like to have fun. They say laugh prolongs our life, it is always necessary to check if it is so.

What can I tell you any more?... I don't know. May be I'll leave some secrets about myself for you to know me better from the next letter (I hope that it will be so)?

Generally, I love many things in my life. And there is one more of the biggest passions - my native land: my small town, my wonderful republic.

We have so beautiful forests, mountains, rivers. Sure, the nature of Yakutia is severe enough and unfriendly. But if you live here for a long time, though I am not so old yet, you will fall in love in the nature of your native region. Perhaps, everybody had a sense of appreciation of his or her country. It usually arises when people go away from their favorite area, where they were born and grew up.

The feel of your patria is general and at the same time it is very individual, because the filling of love has always a secret inside, it is born and keeps in the depth of the soul.

“Yakutia, I love you, dear,
your land is covered with the snow,
You are the queen, who is severe
Whose soul is beautiful and cold.”

These words are devoted to the native land by the Yakutian poet Semion Danilov.You can hardly imagine how beautiful our winter is! I understand that it may seem foolish and incomprehensible to you, but I'd try to explain everything. We really have much snow, and snowdrifts are so white! Even there is frost, when it's so cold, it embraces each branch, warming tree. And what snowflakes are! During the snowfall they slowly spin, falling on the ground and conceal white cover all, that means on their shot way. They are as the forerunners of angels quite come down on the land, making us kinder. And what unforgettable emotions the first white snowdrifts offer! You have such sensations as if snow is the cleanest test. It blinds eyes and cuts painfully with glares of bright sun and figures from ice… they have so many forms and sizes: tigers, bears, Father Frost and what else only!

Do you know that? I'll better show you everything. We shall be able to exchange our addressees of the e-mails, and I’ll send you my December photos from my visit to the city Yakutsk - the capital of Yakutia. In winter it is more beautiful and colder. The frost gives an infinite sensation of the endless holyday. I think you have already guessed that I like New Year celebrations very much and so the winter season! So, come to us any time, I'll do a special excursion for you

We would go to Yakutsk and visit there the museum of the mammoth and museum of the ice (where everything is made of ice, apropos, I've also visited this very beautiful place), we would go to Aldan (the small village) and would look how gold is extracted. We would see all the main sights, streets, beautiful alleys; we would visit all monuments (though they are not so many, as it is desirable) and do shopping. If you arrive in summer we`ll be able to take part in the holiday of Yisiakh, in honor of which people meet and glorify summer. It would be very great! Probably, you have already get a small imagination about my region, certainly, it will be very interesting to know about your native land, where you live, what you like, what customs you have, what interesting places you have seen, what you are keen on?

As I have already told (I do not know you are a boy or you are a girl, therefore allow to consider, as if I constantly speak "friend") ….So, as I have already told, my friend, I like to read very much. And though I have not so much time for reading, I try to do it as often as possible. By the way, recently I have read Dmitry Glukhovskiy`s madly interesting book "Underground 2034" (the first part I read too "The Underground 2033"). I know this book has been published in different languages ​​in many countries of the world in great amount circulation. Probably, you have heard about it or even you have read it. This book is a real furore! If you start to read it you will not come off any more. If you have not read this book yet, my friend, I advise to do it sooner. It will be pleasant for you. It is written in fantasy style, so many heroes are described here, destinies, incidents and ominous adventures. It is FANTASTIC! This Russian writer also translated the cartoon film "Nine" from English into Russian, I think, you have seen it. I love Russian classics very much: Pushkin, Gogol and Block. They are known for the whole world by their great literature work.

Well, here I am for introduction. I am eager to find out more about you, to ask you about everything interesting for you. And also it was always terribly interesting for me how your country has gone through crisis. I do not know why, but it would be desirable very much to learn about itfrom a person who is the native inhabitant. Last year it became such a sore theme that it seems to me it was blown to all corners of the Globe.

In general, I would like to learn about you as much as possible. You are as if from the other planet, from the other continent and a boundless ocean separates us. Let's think it is cool after all that I can write you the letter so easily from Yakutia. In some minutes you will read it and I hope answer my questions. Also it is not necessary to wait for a small envelope with the used up pages of familiar handwriting during long months.

Yes … what the technique has reached!

Well, till our meeting, my kind friend!

Hello my good friend! (yes - yes, exactly kind, because I hope you like my letter.)

This is the first time I am writing such an unusual letter in a language that is not my native language. I would like to tell you more of the most interesting things about me and about the country in which I live.

My name is Ira and, as you probably already guessed, I am from Russia. I am 16 years old. I live in a small, but the most beautiful town on Earth, Neryungri, which is located in South Yakutia, not far from the Chulman River. I am in the 10th grade and actively study English, because I love this subject endlessly. I am fond of sports: athletics and swimming, music: I sing and play musical instruments, I am interested in many things by nature. I love to read. I love intellectual games and humorous contests.

Our country is very, very large, and I live only in a small corner of it, almost in the very north of our vast homeland - in Yakutia. Most likely, you have heard about my republic (I hope so). Diamonds and gold are mined here, coal and uranium deposits have recently been discovered. But many people know about all this .... And I also heard that foreigners have a slightly wrong idea about Yakutia ... and I want to immediately anticipate all your questions and answer them.

Yes, of course, it is very cold and snowy here, but I hasten to disappoint you, in winter our houses do not fall asleep up to the very roofs, and in the mornings we do not have to rake the snow with our hands.

Undoubtedly, there are deer here, very beautiful and powerful, but we do not get to school and work on them. A similar type of transport is used by the Evenki, who live in the Far North and lead a nomadic lifestyle.

Yes, I saw bears, but only in the circus. Of course, there were cases when they came close to the city, but this happens very rarely, and for the most part, the bears are very frightened by the city noise, and they do not dare to go out to settlements.

The balalaika and harmonica are definitely the national instruments of our country, but not everyone knows how to play them. For example, I play the piano and I'm very proud of it.

Well, that seems to be all. I hope that I have dispelled the most famous myths about our region. Don’t be offended, I don’t tease you at all, I just try to treat everything with humor. That being said, I love to joke and make jokes. After all, they say that laughter prolongs life, so it is necessary to check whether this is true or not.

What else can I tell you? I don’t even know, maybe it’s worth leaving a little understatement so that in the next letter (and I hope there will be one) you can learn even more about me.

In general, I love a lot in my life. And one of my biggest passions is my homeland: my small town, my wonderful republic.

We have insanely beautiful forests, rivers, mountains. In general, of course, the nature of Yakutia is quite harsh and unfriendly. But if you live here all your life, and my life is not very long yet, then you will not willy-nilly fall in love with the nature of your native land. Probably, everyone managed to experience a feeling of love for the Motherland. It usually occurs when a person leaves his beloved region, where he was born and raised.

The feeling of the Motherland is universal and at the same time, this feeling is individual, because love is always secret, because it is born and stored in the depths of the soul:

I love you, dear Yakutia,
Snow-covered country
Sovereign mistress of the region
Winter is here for a long time.

So our Yakut poet Semyon Petrovich Danilov spoke about my native land.

You have no idea how beautiful our winter is! I understand that this may seem silly and incomprehensible to you. But I will try to explain… we really have a lot of snow, and the snowdrifts are so white and white. More hoarfrost… when it is very cold, it seems to wrap around every branch of the tree and warm it. And what snowflakes! During a snowfall, they slowly circle, falling to the ground and covering with a white veil everything that meets on their short path. They, like harbingers of angels, quietly descend to earth, making us a little kinder ... and what unforgettable emotions the first snow-white snowdrifts evoke. It seems that the snow in them is of the purest sample. It blinds the eyes and hurts the glare of the bright sun .... What about ice figurines? With backlight, without, from snow ... a wide variety of shapes and sizes !! And tigers, and bears, and Santa Claus, and who else is there! it's just an indescribable emotion! Do you know what? I'll show you better. We could exchange email addresses, and I would send you December photos from my visit to the city of Yakutsk - the capital of Yakutia. It is colder and much more beautiful there in winter! Just a constant fog gives a unique feeling of an endless holiday. I think you have already guessed that I really love the New Year and the winter period in general. So you come to us somehow, I would give you a little tour.

We could go with you to Yakutsk and visit the Mammoth Museum and the Museum of Ice (where everything is made of ice, by the way, I also visited there - a very beautiful place), we would go to Aldan (a small village) and see how open pit gold is mined. We would walk with you around all the main sights, streets, beautiful alleys, visit all the monuments with you (although there are not so many of them as we would like) and big shops. And if you came in the summer, then we would be able to visit the Ysyakh holiday, where summer is celebrated and glorified. Yes, of course it would be great! You probably already have a little idea about my region. Of course, it would be very interesting to learn about your homeland, where you live. What are your customs, interesting places, what are your hobbies?

Like I said (I don't know if you're a guy or a girl, so let's just say I say "friend" all the time)...well, like I said, my friend, I love to read. And although there is not much time left for this, I try to do it as often as possible. By the way, I recently read an insanely interesting book by Dmitry Glukhovsky "Metro 2034" (I also read the first part of "Metro 2033"). I read that this book was published in many countries of the world in different languages ​​in multi-million copies. Perhaps even you have heard of it or even read about it. It's just a blast! Once you start reading, you won't be able to put it down. If you have not read this book yet (my friend), then I advise you to do it. You should definitely like it. Written in fantasy style, it describes so many heroes, destinies, incidents and sinister adventures. FANTASTIC! The same writer in our country translated the cartoon "Nine" from English into Russian, most likely you saw him. I also really love the classics: Pushkin, Gogol, Blok. They are known throughout the world for their great works.

Well, you already know a little more about me. I can’t wait to find out about you, to ask you about everything in the world. By the way, I have always been terribly interested in how your country survived the crisis. I don’t know why, but I really wanted to know about this from the lips of a person who is a national resident. In the last year, this has become such a sore subject that, it seems to me, it has been trumpeted in all corners of the globe.

And anyway, I would like to know about you as much as possible. After all, you seem to be from another planet, from another continent, and between us lies an endless ocean. And if you think about it, how great it is that I can now simply take and write you a letter from Yakutia. In a few minutes you will read it and be sure to write me an answer. And you don’t have to wait for long months for a small envelope with pages of familiar handwriting scribbled.

Yes ... what technology has come to!

Well, see you soon, my good friend!

Sitting and waiting for someone to write to you is pretty boring. Usually those who no one needs write to all the new girls - maybe someone will answer. Therefore, after registering on a dating site, you can get a flurry of letters from guys, men and grandfathers that you are not at all interested in.

To increase your chances, you should write first to the men you like. In this case, you will be able to choose from the men who are of interest to you.

Since on a dating site with foreigners you will not be able to meet any of them tomorrow or the day after tomorrow (they live abroad), there is no problem that you will be misunderstood - weeks or even months will pass before a personal meeting, you will have time to find out What kind of person is this and how seriously does he take you.

When I met foreigners, I wrote myself to those guys who interested me - and as a result, I married a man whom I chose myself. Although I received a lot of letters from potential suitors, it was one of the men to whom I wrote first that I liked the most.

To give you a rough idea of ​​the scope of my search, I sent about 100 emails and received about 20 responses. About 250 men wrote to me themselves. I corresponded with 40 candidates (not at the same time, during the year - I had 10-15 correspondents at the same time).

When you write first

The easiest thing on our dating site Elenasmodels.com is to send an expression of interest (Expression of Interest, or EOI). In this case, you do not need to write anything at all. The recipient will answer whether he is interested or not.

The simplest is to send an Expression of Interest (EOI).

If he is interested, he can write you a letter himself, or simply send a reply to your EOI and wait for your message.

You can also send an email right away without having to send the EOI first. But in this case, it may turn out that you waste time, and he is not interested.

• Start by sending EOI. Write individual messages after you have received a positive response.
• If you don't get positive responses at all (on average women get 1-2 positive responses per 10 EOI across the site), then try writing individual letters right away.
• The older you are, the less men are interested in you. Women over 35 should definitely write to men themselves and treat it like a job. Gentlemen will run after young women, but not after middle-aged women. You need to be able to interest the right man, because there is more competition here. It is not necessary to win guys, but it is necessary to interest them. This is where the ability to write the first letter will help.

What to write in the first letter

In the first letter, the most important thing is emotions.

Your first message should interest a man and inspire him with an irresistible desire to answer. To do this, it should be meaningful enough, but at the same time short and emotional.

First letter rules:

1. Brevity- Your message should be maximum 500-1000 characters. In a long message, it is easier to make a mistake, to say something wrong, to lose the intensity of emotions. Yes, and more time is spent on writing long messages.
2. Emotionality- your message should make a man smile, cheer him up. A positive attitude and openness is the key to a successful first email. The same facts can be stated in different ways - the impression that your letter makes is more important than its content.
3. Individuality- it should be obvious to the recipient that this text was written specifically for him and could not be sent to someone else. Individual messages take time, but non-individual messages just go to the wastebasket.
4. Here and today- attach a photo taken today and briefly explain where it was taken (at work, in the gym, in the park for a walk, at home on the balcony, on the embankment, etc.). Men's biggest fear is that your profile pictures are old and you look worse in real life. Today's photo will help him believe that you are a real woman (they really doubt it). It will also let him know that you haven't sent the same picture to dozens of other guys. You yourself should like your photo, take it with a smile, in bright clothes or against a bright background - this will add positive!
5. State what attracted you- we all want not only to be liked by others, we also want to know why we are loved. Write what exactly attracted you in his profile or photos, this will make your letter personal and sincere.
6. Copy his words- the meaning that we put into certain concepts is very individual. Use the words from his profile so he can relate your ideas to his own.
7. Copy his style- if his profile is in a playful style, write with humor. If he is very serious, be serious.
8. Ask 1 question- so it will be easier for your correspondent to answer. The easier it is for a man to communicate with you, the greater the chance that he will choose you from all the hundreds of pretty girls on the dating site.
9. Literacy- the more correctly your texts are composed, the smarter you seem to a man. Illiterate texts create an unimportant impression. It's easy, just follow these rules.
10. Give know, What You waiting response- end your letter with the words “looking forward to hearing from you”, “talk to you soon”, “hoping to hear from you quickly”. It should be so understandable that you are waiting for a response to your letter, but for some unknown reason, these words add enthusiasm to the guys and give them the impulse to write faster.

When to expect a response

“If you wait for the most favorable moment, you will never budge; it takes a little bit of madness to take the first step." Paulo Coelho, The Book of the Warrior of Light.

As in everyday life, in international acquaintances, the impression of another person, his desire to start or continue communication, depends on how we addressed him: on the chosen words, the content of the first message and its tone.

In the article, we talked about why it is worth discarding prejudices and taking the initiative of meeting a foreigner in your own hands. Today we would like to touch on the topic of the first message and talk about what is important when writing the first message and what mistakes can be made.

The first message on an international dating site is a step forward, it is a manifestation of a desire to get to know each other, an interest in learning more about another person. Not every attempt to get acquainted can be successful, not every message will have the desired effect, so it is important to learn how to write interesting, individual letters that will interest a foreign man in getting to know you.

There can be many options for the first appeal to a man. In the first message, you can introduce yourself and tell about the purpose of your acquaintance; write why you are interested in this particular man and politely ask the question that interests you, so that it is easier for him to find a suitable answer and thereby continue the dialogue.

On the other hand, each person is individual and not everyone finds it easy, without a good reason or reason, to start talking about themselves to a stranger or answer their questions. If you feel uncomfortable asking questions or talking about yourself, in the first message you initiate, exclude personal information and questions about the interlocutor's personal life from your first letter. Instead, you can make your writing original and unobtrusive! A little imagination, a little wit and attention to the man's profile, to the interests indicated in it, to the added photos. The original message will make the interlocutor smile and attract his attention.

What should you pay special attention to when composing the first message for a foreigner?

Don't forget to say hello and address the man by his first name. Each person is pleased when he feels the attention directed specifically at him. Messages without a name give the impression of impersonal messages sent to many men.

Consider the content of the message. What thoughts your first message is filled with should reflect the depth of your views, the beauty of your inner world. As we have noted more than once, beautiful people attract the attention of men - this is a visual factor that affects a man's interest in dating. Photographs, however, cannot reflect your values, your inner world - this is the task of a thoughtful and well-written letter.

Emphasize the fact that you have read the man's profile. We read the information that he indicated about himself, got acquainted with his interests and hobbies. Perhaps you are united by common hobbies, you both go in for sports or like to read books, or maybe you are connected by a simple human desire to be happy ... Pay attention to his photos, maybe he added a photo of his pet to the profile or a picture from a trip to another country.

The first message should provide an incentive for further communication. At the end of the letter, instead of “please tell us about yourself”, you can safely ask a question! Formulate your question in such a way that it is impossible to give a definite answer to it: “yes”, “no”, or “good”.

Let's tell you one secret, Europeans often complain that Slavic women rarely ask questions or show their interest in communicating with a man. Make the passivity of other women in dealing with foreign gentlemen your advantage! ;-)

Special attention should be paid to spelling and punctuation. Mistakes made in a message written in a foreign language are understandable and excusable. An illiterate message written in the native language looks strange. Was it sent in a hurry, or errors arose due to inattention and neglect of the interlocutor?

Translate your message into German or English.

Pay attention to the tone of the message. should be friendly, polite and tactful. An orderly, imperative tone has no place here!

Don't forget to say goodbye and wish you a good day!

Errors that may affect the impression made by the first letter:

Wrong tone of the letter: suspicion, rudeness or implicit accusation. There are dishonorable men on dating sites, this is a fact. However, you should not hint at this in the first message to the man you would like to meet, tell him that he may well turn out to be a dishonorable character. Communication and acquaintance should begin and be built on mutual trust.

The message is written and sent in Russian, without translation.

The letter is a biography. This is a long message, which briefly and monotonously lists all the significant facts of the biography. After reading such a letter, a man already knows everything about a woman and it is difficult for him to find a topic for further communication.

An impersonal "Hello! How are you?" or the minimalist "Hi". It can be difficult to find a suitable response to such messages and they do not reflect a real interest in getting to know this particular person.

A meaningful wink - ;-)

In conclusion, we would like to note that the most effective way to assess the correctness of your appeal to another person, in our opinion, is to answer a simple question: what will be your own reaction, what will you feel and think when you receive such a message from a man? Will it interest you, make you smile or leave you indifferent?

How to write a letter to a foreign man? How to write a letter beautifully and correctly?

You met a man through and between you the distance. Do you already understand? You begin a very romantic, and at the same time important, stage of your relationship - writing letters to each other. How to write correct, beautiful letter a foreigner or even a Russian man?

This article is devoted to the rules of correspondence with a foreign man (foreigner), but the rules also apply when writing a letter Russian man, with the exception of some features and details. After reading all the recommendations how to write a letter to a man foreigner, you will get the desired result. Recommendations are developed by experienced specialists

It is VERY IMPORTANT to know write"correct" letters a man so that your communication at a distance develops into a relationship and leads to your soonest meeting with

If you are ready to comply letter writing rules a man and put them into practice, the marriage agency "Happy Life" GUARANTEES that the desired foreign man will fly to you from any part of the world.

So, there are unspoken rules that every girl should follow when you write letters men!

Consider the situation when a man first showed interest in you and wrote you a letter first, and you need to write a beautiful letter to a foreigner man.

A letter for a man consists of important constituent elements.

So let's start in order:

Greetings

Any letter foreign man begins with a greeting. If you got first from a man letter, in which he greets you with the words Hello (which means "Hello"), you need to maintain the style of your answer, and write "Hello" in your letter as well.

It is appropriate to refer to a man as an adjective « Dear"(which translates as “dear”, “respected”), if your relationship can already be considered closer and more informal, then you can write « Dearest".

Some older girls and women use “Hi” in their letter, which literally translates as “Hi”. This form of address is very informal and is usually used by people in more intimate conversations. You run the risk of appearing impolite and familiar if you write "Hi" in your first letter.

We are not talking here about those cases when we are talking about “light” informal communication (then the use of the phrase “Hello” is quite acceptable).

We all love to be called by name, no one likes faceless treatment. According to psychologists, a person always experiences positive emotions when he hears his name from the lips of another person. Psychologists of the Happy Life marriage agency have published where men share their impressions of modern women.

Be sure to call the man by name in the letter! It is important!

Imagine - you received a letter from a foreigner, from a man you liked with the words at the beginning of the letter: Hello, sweetie! (Hello, sweetie) or hello, dear! (Hello dear)

Most likely, you received his template letter from a man, which he sends out to all the women he likes on a dating site. The man didn't even bother to change the woman's name in the letter, type in a new one. Most likely, he is afraid to confuse, so he writes the same thing to everyone!)

Would you be pleased to receive such a faceless letter from a man? We highly doubt... Nobody wants to be "one of". Therefore, always refer to a man in a letter by name and in the process of writing, also do not forget to mention his name.

The most common phrases to start a letter to the man you are interested in "How have you been?" or "How are you doing?" Interrogative sentences help prepare the recipient for dialogue.

Gratitude for attention, compliments to a man

The next step, after greeting the man, is the OBLIGATORY gratitude to the man for his interest in you and his letter. This is the elementary rule, and well-mannered people always thank a person for taking his free time and writing a letter. A man understands that a woman appreciates his time and is brought up. If you are interested in a man, do not forget to compliment him. Praise the man for his interesting profile, for the positive character traits that he indicated in his profile: perhaps he does charity work or studies Russian literature, is well versed in art, has an extreme hobby, etc. All this is worthy of a compliment. Show your interest in the personality and interests of a man - do not be indifferent!

If a man did not indicate anything remarkable in his profile, then just compliment him on his appearance: if a man has an athletic build, praise the man for his ability to keep himself in excellent physical shape. Or for kind eyes you can trust. Charming smile. Feel free to say warm kind words to the person. It is IMPORTANT not only for women to receive words of recognition and be convinced of their exclusivity. Believe me, men need it no less. Most importantly, say sincerely what you really like about him. He will definitely appreciate it!

Be emotional!

A man does not see you and builds his impression of you from your letters (of course, after evaluating the photo). Therefore, we recommend to be more emotional when writing letters to a foreign man. The business and scientific style of writing a letter when meeting with the goal of developing a romantic relationship is unacceptable! Many women “sin” by telling a man about themselves and about their lives in a completely dry, emotionless language. Such letters are absolutely not interesting to a man! They are boring! And they are unlikely to "hook" a man.

When reading your letters, a man should present the picture that you "draw" to him in your letters, colored with emotions and impressions about certain events in your life.

For example, telling in a letter about a theater production that you attended with your friends over the weekend. Describe your feelings and emotions that you had while watching the play. What touched you, and what you could not understand. If you like to be in nature, tell the man what exactly fascinates you. Tell a foreign man about what beauty and at what time of the year you are especially attracted. The contemplation of beauty makes you feel delighted, or vice versa, makes you feel peaceful. Tell all this to a foreigner in a letter so that a man can understand your soul. It brings people very close, despite the distance of hundreds of kilometers. A man has a desire to respond to such a beautiful and sincere letter from a woman.

The presence of a woman's interests and hobbies, her interest in life, the desire to learn new things are very important for. For him, the high spiritual rating of a woman matters. Interesting and sincere letters of a woman can tell a lot about you, even about what you kept silent about ....

What to write about to a man - a foreigner?

“…. I don’t even know him, what am I going to write to him about?” - girls often ask a question.

Our answer: - Write about everything! Everything that surrounds you, that you like, that makes you admire and rejoice. Describe your favorite places in the city where you like to spend time, about your hobbies and passions. Why do you like it and how do you feel when you do what you love.

It is interesting to read letters about travel, your impressions of the places you have visited. A man understands that you have a wide range of interests, you are an independent person. If you do not have special hobbies and hobbies. If your life is such a picture as "work-home-work", then talk about your family, about the books that you read, and what touched you in particular. Perhaps you have watched some interesting movie and would like to discuss it with your pen pal. Ask questions to a man, ask him, show your interest in him. Thus, you show that it is important for you to know his opinion, you respect him as a person. Moreover, if you want your communication to continue, if you asked a man a number of questions, he needs to answer you. Write about nature, animals you like and why, etc. and so on. Communicate on abstract topics. The most important! Your letters should ALWAYS be positive!

What should not be written in letters to a man!

The most important rule of romantic correspondence with a foreign man is that your letters should always be positive and inspiring. In no case do not complain or condemn other people in your letters. You should not write about instability in your country, the worsening economic situation, the difficulties of everyday life, and so on.

The man notes that the woman is a pessimist and a bore. A successful man limits himself from receiving negative information from the outside, so it is very uncomfortable for him to communicate with such girls. Your communication may end quickly.

Do not write to a man about health problems, even minor ones. In the mind of a man, you should always be young, healthy and joyful! No problems and difficulties!

You should not touch on serious topics in correspondence: be it the birth of children, a possible move to the country of a potential groom, the maintenance of elderly parents, property issues, etc.

It often happens that men ask questions about a possible change of residence. This is fine. The main thing is to competently give an answer to a man, and at the same time not to offend him, if you are not yet ready to discuss this topic or you have doubts about this. We recommend in these cases to take an example from the Eastern sages and diplomats.

For example, a man asks you at the first stages of your virtual relationship if you are ready to leave your job and move to his country. You can answer the man like this: “Dear…. John, I really appreciate the seriousness of your intentions and I understand that this is a very serious step for you, but for me also I know that I can trust you in any situation, because you are a responsible and serious man. With a man like you, I can move to another country and be happy. I think we can discuss the topic of moving later when our relationship is closer."

You should not talk about all your doubts directly and openly at the initial stage of your acquaintance, when your relationship is just beginning to emerge. By doing this, you can offend a man and instill in him uncertainty about your intentions to start a family with him, especially if his feelings for you are really serious and strong.

Try to be flexible and delicate. If you are asked "uncomfortable" questions, ask: "Why are you asking about this?" and/or be evasive. Remain a mystery to a man that he would like to solve.

When your communication becomes more confidential, you will be able to discuss serious topics with him and share your experiences. But not at an early stage in your relationship. Excessive frankness can scare a man.

Do not ask a man about his material opportunities and benefits, this topic is inappropriate and gives rise to thoughts in a man about the self-interest of a woman and her mercantile interest.

Wait until the man himself touches on this topic, which means that he trusts you.

Recall another “Golden Rule” that you should NEVER talk about with a potential lover - this is about your previous men. Even if a man tries to find out from you the details of your past life, in no case do not tell him about it.

EVERY man, asking such questions to a woman, wants to hear from you confirmation that ONLY he is your one and only, unique and the best man you have ever met in your life. In this case, silence is golden!

The final part of the letter to the man

Any correspondence with a man, no matter romantic or business, has certain rules for completing the conversation.

In our case, when you finish your letter to a foreigner, be sure to add a note at the end with a wish for a good day, or good wishes, etc.

There are many variants in English that people often use to express their gratitude to the addressee, completing a letter to a foreign gentleman. You can use for example

Take care - (literally) "take care"

Warm wishes - "with warm wishes"

Warm regards - "with warm wishes"

Sincerely - "sincerely"

Sincerely yours - "with sincere respect or sincerely yours ..."

Have a wonderful day - “I wish you a wonderful day”

Have a nice day - "I wish you a nice day"

Best wishes - "with best wishes"

Cheers - "Be healthy!"

Warmly - "with warmth"

Also, inspire your friend to write a reply message. Write:

I am looking forward to hearing from you soon - Looking forward to hearing from you.

I hope hear from you soon - I hope to hear from you soon

Please write back! - please write the answer

Waiting for an answer - “Waiting for an answer”

For a message in English to a very close person, words like:

Love - "I love"

Thinking of you - “thinking about you”

Much love - "with much love"

Kiss - "kiss"

Check for literacy!

Even if your knowledge of a foreign language is not great, you can easily communicate with a foreigner. Various on-line translators will come to your aid.

Using them is very easy: just paste your text written in Russian into the left field of the program, and an automatic translation of your text into English (or any other language) will appear on the right.

Be sure to read your letter before sending it to the addressee, and check for errors. You can easily check yourself by translating your English translation back into Russian. You will be able to see where the distortion of meaning occurred during automatic translation and easily correct it.

Good luck to you!)

Sincerely yours,

Marina Slinkina and Elena Grande